This makes sense considering online dating has become the standard, with most finding their spouses through technology. Almost 53 percent of people had one-night stands with someone they just met in person, and 52 percent even hooked up with a friend. For some, one-night stands are fun and lighthearted, but other people may not be as comfortable with them.
Most respondents were at least slightly comfortable with one-night stands, with only 2. The majority of respondents were moderately comfortable with one-night stands.
With a long history of being shamed for sex , women began to mute their sexuality and fit the mold society saw fit. As women continue to come together and reclaim their independence and agency, the gap between comfort felt by men and women regarding casual sex may begin to close.
After all, sex with a stranger can be extremely awkward during the act or waking up the next morning. While this was the main concern for most men, women had far more varying concerns, including personal safety.
In fact, women were more likely to worry about their personal safety than the risk of unintended pregnancy. Fifty-four percent of women feared their personal safety would be at risk due to casual sex, while that was only a concern for 34 percent of men. Women were also more likely to be concerned about body insecurities, fear of regret, and being labeled promiscuous.
Casual sex brought up fear of being labeled promiscuous for just 11 percent of men, but this stigma was a fear for 27 percent of women. Luckily, taking precautions can minimize certain concerns associated with one-night stands. What steps are people taking to relieve the worries they have surrounding one-nighters? Both men and women practiced carrying extra condoms or contraceptives with them at The two genders were also just as likely to ask their casual partner about his or her STI status before getting it on.
However, the genders differed greatly when it came to other precautions. Fifty-five percent of women said they told a friend where they would be, while only 23 percent of men did the same. The fear women feel when alone in certain situations is shared among the gender, so leaning on girlfriends may be the best bet — especially since they can empathize with those worries. Women were also more than twice as likely to carry self-defense items with them. Thirty-two percent of women worried about personal safety enough to bring protection, while only 11 percent of men entered a one-night stand carrying self-defense protection.
For men, 30 percent were wary of having a one-nighter with a co-worker, and 25 percent were most worried about sleeping with a friend. Only 12 percent of men thought going home with someone they just met in person was worrisome, while almost 24 percent of women felt the same.
Women were also more concerned about having a one-night stand with someone they met online or through a dating app — nearly 24 percent of women were leery of those situations.
This difference between genders can likely be traced back to the fears each has regarding one-night stands. Women, on the other hand, were more concerned about strangers, likely due, in part, to the potential risk to their safety. Casual sex and one-night stands are often linked to shame, usually more so for women than men.
While this shame can come from oneself , it also stems from the judgment of others. Regardless of its origin, shame plays a major role in how people approach, participate, and feel about one-night stands. Both men and women who had low shame according to the Shame-Negative-Self-Evaluation subscale of the Guilt and Shame Proneness Scale had more one-night stands, on average, compared to those with high shame. Although weirdly, you are far, far more likely to expect it if you're a Trump supporter, but for most of us, only six percent of men and 1 percent of women think that they're going to get down on the first date.
And not that many people are expecting to get to second base. Fifteen percent of men and 17 percent of women expect a " makeout session " when they've just met, while about 50 percent of men and women think that kissing would only be appropriate after a " good first date ". But most people will give a second date a go even if there aren't massive sparks on the first date , so be sure to give it some time.
Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage? Check out our new podcast, I Want It That Way , which delves into the difficult and downright dirty parts of a relationship, and find more on our Soundcloud page. By Lea Rose Emery. For lots of people, they settle with whichever is more important and hope that the latter will develop.
With a one-night stand, there is no settling and no deal breaker. There is no threat of a break-up or feelings of heartbreak. At least if you are being honest. For a one night stand to work, both people have to be explicit about their intentions.
There are some men and women in this world, who may not believe in one — night stands and who at the receiving end of being one, can literally destroy their self worth. At the same time, one of the key elements to a one-night stand is the lack of deep and personal communication. There are many people who will look down at those who had a one-night stand.
This is just one of the reasons that so many people conceal them. Obviously, if you are already in a relationship and seek out one night stands than you have broken the rule of intention and honesty. Yet, for those single people who are living on the cusp of finding a soul mate, a one-night stand peppered through your dating history can help you to develop what you really want in a partner.
You have to be safe in this world of sexual diseases. And before you embark on one, you also have to have a greater understanding of who you are as a person. However, if you are caught morally about the impact of a one-night stand and will live in personal distress, it is best to avoid situations like this.
One thing is for sure. Very few people who have one-night stands, plan to do so.
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